Some common signs that you might be pregnant are:
- You have missed your period
- You feel nauseous
- You have been vomiting
- You are feeling more tired
- Your breasts feel tender
- You are urinating more often
- You feel more emotional than normal
Not everyone experiences all of these symptoms, but if you have missed your period and have been sexually active, you should take a pregnancy test. Mercy offers free, self-administered pregnancy tests and time with a peer advocate who can explain all your options. All of Mercy’s services are free and confidential.
How will a baby affect my future?
Becoming a parent is a big change, but it does not mean you cannot pursue your educational or career goals. Many new parents learn how to juggle parenting, school, and work. With hard work and a plan, you can do it. Start to plan by considering your support system. Do you have a trusted family member, friend, or neighbor willing to help watch your baby while you are at school or work? How will the baby’s father be involved? Will he offer financial help or be willing to help to parent your baby? Might he be willing to adjust his work or school schedule to accommodate time with the baby? Being a mom may feel overwhelming, but many women believe becoming a parent has made their life more meaningful and full of love.
How can I tell my parents?
If you are pregnant unexpectedly, it is normal to feel nervous about telling your parents. Most parents have a vision of a future for their child that may not include an unplanned pregnancy. Once you have decided you are parenting or making an adoption plan for your baby, have an honest conversation with your parents. They may be upset, but will likely accept your decision in time. No one can force you to have an abortion or make an adoption plan. The decision is up to you.
How do I tell my partner?
Telling your partner you are pregnant before you were planning to be can feel scary. You may be worried about how he will react to the news. If you are concerned about your safety when you tell him you are pregnant, do not put yourself in that situation alone. Your safety is essential. If you are feeling unsafe in your relationship, there is help. The National Domestic Violence Hotline provides free, confidential, compassionate support.
It might help you to make a plan on when and where you will tell your partner. Choose a time when you can be alone to talk, unless you feel unsafe. If you feel unsafe, ask a trusted friend or family member to be with you.
Your partner may feel overwhelmed about the possibility of becoming a father. Listen to his concerns and give him space to process the news. Talk about how you are both feeling. If he is willing to be involved, discuss how you will work together and make decisions together as you parent.
What if my partner won’t support me?
It is difficult if your partner chooses not to be involved in his child’s life, but many women learn how to find the support they need as single mothers. One of the keys to thriving as a single mom is to develop a support system of family and friends who can help you raise your child. A trusted family member may be willing to watch your baby while you are at school or work. Be careful who you let into your child’s life, but once you have built a trusted relationship, don’t be afraid to ask for help from those in your support system.
How can Mercy help me?
Mercy offers free, self-administered pregnancy tests and information about your options. If you qualify for an ultrasound, Mercy can provide you with a referral for an ultrasound free of charge.
If you feel scared or unsure about what to do if you are pregnant, Mercy is here to listen to your concerns and discuss your choices. It is normal to feel afraid or worried about how a baby would change your life. You are not alone. Mercy is here to walk alongside you during your pregnancy and the first years of your baby’s life.
Mercy provides an “Earn While You Learn” program so that you can earn needed items for your baby.
Once you are a part of Mercy’s program, you can also receive diapers, wipes, and gently used maternity and children’s clothing.
Mercy hosts Bible studies and a New Moms’ Group that offer additional support and the chance to build relationships with other moms.
You may feel alone, but Mercy is here to give you the information you need to make the best decision for you and your baby.